Oct 01 , 2021
Get Your Brain On Board
The thought of using anal sex toys for the first time can be daunting. There are a lot of taboos, tall tales and a good deal of misinformation that can confuse people, and cause fear. The most important part to making the experience pleasurable is education. Education will empower your experience and allow you to know what to expect, which is a determining factor in how much fun you’ll be able to have. Take some time to research any subject about which you might be nervous or anxious. Remember - it’s not a race. The right pace is the one that works for you.
Try It Alone First
Masturbation is often seen as a key way to understand your body and your preferences so that you feel empowered, and informed, when experimenting with a partner. When it comes to anal play, it’s no different. Solo anal play is one of the best, and most comfortable, ways to get started with anal pleasure.
Exploring a new anal sex toy with a partner is definitely a lot of fun, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But, starting on your own allows you a safe space for experimentation. You can try out different types of products, attempt different pleasure options and stop and start anytime you want, without needing to navigate the (sometimes complicated) ins and outs of sex with another person.
Your first experience with a new anal sex toy might result in some surprising sensations. Practicing solo gives you the chance to be both the giver and the receiver, which is super helpful when you do eventually add another person to the mix.
Hygiene Is Key
When it comes to "Mess", what cleaning decisions you make really depend on how well you know your body, especially your digestive system. You are, of course, inserting something into your anus, so sometimes, people prefer to clean up before anal play. If you’re in a rush, you can use alcohol-free or baby wipes for a quick clean. If you're looking for another easy cleaning option, go to the bathroom 30-60 minutes before you begin anal play. Empty your bowels and wash the anal area with regular soap and warm water. Unscented, hypoallergenic baby wipes are a great alternative.
If you want to take extra precautions, you can use an enema. For the very best experience, make sure to do any type of enema one to two hours before anal play. You can try a reusable one, or you can use a disposable enema.
When it comes to clean-up after anal play, gentle baby wipes can easily clean up, while an epsom salt bath can feel purifying, pampering, and practical for sore muscles. It's also worth noting that anus contains specific bacteria that shouldn’t be shared - so thoroughly wash your toys in soapy hot water.
Don't 'Double Dip'
Another hygiene element to keep in mind is the notion of 'double dipping'. Basically, this means that you shouldn’t ever touch the anus and vagina with the same hand, or sex toys (without cleaning thoroughly beforehand). The anus and the vagina are two very distinct ecosystems, and you don’t want to spread bacteria from the anus to the vagina.
Choose The Type Of Toy
When it comes to deciding which type of anal toy is best for you, take some time to consider what use and sensation you’re most interested in. It’s also worth understanding the baseline differences between different types of anal products.
There’s a common misconception that a butt plug is solely used as a tool to prepare for anal sex. However, butt plugs are an amazing sex toy on their own. One key benefit is that they allow you to focus on other pleasure centres, while simply staying in. In fact, a comfortably positioned butt plug should not be pushed in or pulled out until plug play is over.
Butt plugs facilitate sexual pleasure, because they apply pressure to erogenous zones and create the feeling of fullness. When it comes to sex, pressure is greatly underestimated and overshadowed by the “in and out motion”. In fact, pressure is what enables many people to climax and experience great pleasure, both vaginally and anally.
When starting off, try something about the size of finger, that is easy to insert, and follows a teardrop shape or bulb, has a neck, and a narrow flared base for a comfortable fit between the butt cheeks. Another great option is b-vibe's novice plug.
Unlike a butt plug - which is only meant to go in and stay in - anal beads were designed to stimulated inside the body and move in an out of the bum. The beads are inserted into the anus one at a time, creating a sensual feeling of fullness. They are then pulled out at varying speeds, depending on the desired effect. As the beads are removed, they arouse the sensitive nerve endings of the double ringed sphincter muscle. This stimulation creates a series of pleasurable sensations, like having a muscle massaged.
When starting off, I suggest choosing something small and preferably with beads that graduate in size. This allows the user to start with the smallest beads and then work towards larger beads as they become comfortable with the sensation.
Consider The Size Of The Toy
It’s important to consider size when you start looking into anal toys. This is especially important when choosing butt plugs, because they vary hugely in size depending upon your experience level and needs. Start with smaller sized products, and slowly work up to larger sizes. Graduating in size can be done over the course of weeks, months, or not at all - stop whenever you feel comfortable.
Since butt plugs and anal beads can be enjoyed hands-free, they should always have a flared base. Otherwise, there’s a significant risk of the product slipping too far into the anal canal and traveling up the colon – which may cause serious bodily harm. A flared base prevents the toy from being inserted entirely and makes retrieval not only easy but possible.
If you are new to anal sex toys, start off by wearing it for short periods of time. It’s never a good idea to take a brand new toy for a spin outside in public, say during a long dinner or a concert.
Never Forget The Lube
When it comes to any kind of anal play, using lubricant is essential. The anus does not lubricate naturally like the vagina, so you need to help it out a bit. Since a butt plug can stay in the body for long periods of time, you should always apply enough lubricant to ensure the easy and pleasurable removal of the plug. Our motto is 'slow and slippery'.